In a recent podcast with Pulse, the Nigerian singer and vocalist Lojay acknowledges having been in an abusive relationship in the past. He admits that the woman had stabbed him previously and that the wound was still visible on his body.
He said the union lasted six years, beginning when he was 16 and ending only when he was 22.
The woman, who also happened to be his first love, had her good and bad moments, but the violent part began with small assaults and attacks like throwing his shoes at him when he got angry, which the singer admitted to finding funny at the time, until things became violent and more physical.
She added that because the woman had so many positive traits, she didn’t realize the actions were abusive at the time.
“He stabbed me with a fork; that day was hilarious. He smashed a kettle on my head and dented that shit. Then he stabbed me in the hand with a fork. It’s a horror story; the brand is with me.” forever. The funny thing about it is that when I look back, the first hit he took was directly to my chest, but since it was a fork, it didn’t really cut me much, but what if it was a knife?
“…the bad part was at the time, I didn’t even realize it was abuse. Because at the time, she did like 30 good things and then she did like 2 bad things.”
The celebrity then opened up about the moment the romance came to an end. He said that he was sick and that while he was drinking water, the lady hit him in the face. He claimed that all he could do was advise him to be her as he had feelings for her.
Lojay claims that the woman did not go quietly on the appointed day. She took a more aggressive approach and even came dangerously close to damaging the singer’s car.
“…in six years I had never asked him to leave my space. He didn’t go quietly, in fact, he almost crashed my car. This is serious business. That night, I’m not telling you, it was first an attack, and then it was her asking me to open my phone”
When asked if he cheated in the relationship, the singer said that he did not cheat in particular, as there was an eight-month break in their relationship.
“…We broke up for 8 months, so it wasn’t like direct cheating, there was distance and it was complicated. It wasn’t direct cheating and like the moment we decided to get back together, I wasn’t cheating on her with someone. But there was some people she wouldn’t have wanted me to talk to and she thought I was talking so she checked my phone and saw someone replied to a message but there was no message from me which meant she had deleted our conversations. He put a knife in my face and told me to open my phone, stabbed the bed and dragged it down to show me that the knife was effective.”
He added that the lady would always want him to use violence against her in an effort to “balance the odds.” And because that’s not who he is and he didn’t grow up with that kind of upbringing, she vowed never to touch her.
He eventually admitted that the woman’s cunning behavior was what finally broke his spine.
“…after all, my mind told me to go downstairs and I saw her in my car and the car was on. Apparently she wanted out, so I quickly yelled that they should close the door. So I went to the car, she was calling her sister blah blah blah here’s the scary part: when the caretakers of the building i was staying in came out and asked her what happened, she told them she was running away from me because i was beating her up this point, I realized that this was a danger”
The singer used this to express the fact that he never sings anything just for the sake of singing; all his songs are drawn from real life problems and expressions. in even tonongoone of his hit songs, he said that the encounter with the stripper in the song was real.
Furthermore, the singer admitted that despite his repeated attempts, he had never let her back into his life. He claimed that because he had been so enraged by such situations that even the slightest hint of violence would force him to leave, he could never put himself in such a situation again.
He stated that as a result of his experience with her, everything he wants and expects from a relationship, as well as his criteria for it, has changed.
“I remember the first time I put out my EP for TMXU, he told me ‘you look like the songs you do, you look like that guy’ and that guy is a product of everything I’ve been through. The person Lojay is, the phrases, the words, the way he structures his words, the way he talks about women is based on his experiences. That is who I am now and I can no longer find myself in such situations. You can slap, but that’s the end of it.”
Lekan Osifeso Jr., also known as Lojay, is a well-known Nigerian musician, singer, songwriter, and performer. He peaked on the Billboard US Afrobeats chart earlier this year with the song Monalisa, on which he collaborated with Chris Brown and Sarz. The singer is currently working on an EP titled Romantic gangster.